Saint John Vianney Center Wellness Journey Podcasts

Presentation Videos

Guarding the Temple – Managing Chronic Stress
– David Shellenberger, RN, BSN
Dealing with Loss & Grief
– Sr. Mary Lindsay

SJVC Videos and Health Tips

Fitness Center at SJVC
SJVC Dietary Services
Continuing Care Program at SJVC
Spiritual Care Advisor Dr. Erik Ranstrom
EAC Outreach Programs
Outpatient Services
SJVC Accreditation and Compliance
Healthy Portions
Good Sitting Posture
SJVC Chapel


Mount Carmel

Emerging from Covid

Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Presents: Dr. Mariette Danilo’s interview by pastor, Father Matthew Guckin, in her Doylestown home parish. They discuss the aftermath of Covid, Covid fatigue, the election, and resilience. Dr. Danilo is SJVC’s Director of Education.

Mr. David Shellenberger
David Shellenberger, RN, BSN
Nuns Walking

Aging with Grace; the Nun Study



Spiritual Reading

Au, Wilkie. By Way of the Heart. (1989). New York: Paulist Press

Au, W. & Cannon, Noreen. Urgings of the Heart: A Spirituality of Integration. (1995). Mahway, NJ: Paulist Press.

Brackley, Dean, S.J. The Call to Discernment in Troubled Times: New Perspectives on the Transformative Wisdom of Ignatius of Loyola. (2005). New York, NY: Crossroads.

Catechism of the Catholic Church. (1997). Libreria Editrice Vaticana.

Cecero, John, SJ. Praying Through Your Lifetraps: A Psychospiritual Path to Freedom. (2002). Totowa, NJ: Catholic Book Publishing.

Ciarrocchi, Joseph. A Ministers Handbook of Mental Disorders. (1993). New York: Paulist Press.

Clebsch, William, & Jackle, Charles. Pastoral Care in Historical Perspective. (1983). New York: Jason Aronson.

Cloud, Dr. Henry, & Townsend, Dr. John. Boundaries. (1992). Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

Cloud, Dr. Henry, & Townsend, Dr. John. Boundaries Workbook. (1995). Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

Coutinho, Paul. How Big is Your God? The Freedom to Experience the Divine. (2007). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

DeMello, Anthony. Seek God Everywhere: Reflections on the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius. (2010). New York, NY: Doubleday.

Fink, Peter, SJ (Editor). The New Dictionary of Sacramental Worship. (1990). Collegeville, MN: Liturgical Press.

Gallagher, Timothy. The Discernment of Spirits. (2005). New York, NY: Crossroad Publishing Company.

Goleman, Daniel. Emotional Intelligence. (2006). New York, NY: Bantam Books.

Goodwin, Cathy. Making the Big Move. (2000). Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Groeschel, Benedict. Spiritual Passages. (1999). New York: Crossroads.

Gula, Richard, SS. Just Ministry. (2010). New York: Paulist Press.

Gula, Richard, SS. Ethics in Pastoral Ministry. (1996). New York: Paulist Press.

Hedahl, Susan K. Listening Ministry. Rethinking Pastoral Leadership. (2001). Minneapolis, MN: Fortress Press.

Hellwig, Monika. Guests of God: Stewards of Divine Creation. (1999). New York, NY: Paulist Press.

Hinson, G.H.,. Loneliness as a Crucible of Grace. (2005). Weavings, 20 (2), 18-25.

J. Michael Sparough, Manney, Jim, and Hipskind, Tim. What’s Your Decision? How to Make Choices with Confidence and Clarity: An Ignatian Approach to Decision Making. (2010). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

Kurtz, Ernest, and Ketcham, Katherine. The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning. (1992). New York, NY: Bantam Books.

Manney, Jim. A Simple Life-Changing Prayer: Discovering the Power of St. Ignatius Loyola’s Examen. (2011). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

May, Gerald, MD. Addiction and Grace. (1998). New York, NY: Harper Collins.

May, Gerald, MD. Will and Spirit. (1982). New York, NY: Harper Collins.

May, Gerald, MD. Care of Mind, Care of Spirit: A Psychiatrist Explores Spiritual Direction. (1991). New York, NY: Harper Collins.

May, Gerald, MD. The Awakened Heart: Opening Yourself to the Love You Need. (1993). New York, NY: Harper Collins.

May, Gerald, MD. The Dark Night of the Soul: A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between Darkness and Spiritual Growth.(2004). San Francisco, CA: Harper Collins.

McBride, J. LeBron. Spiritual Crisis. (1998). New York NY: The Hawthorne Pastoral Press.

McGlone, Gerard J., SJ. Creating Safe and Sacred Places: Identifying, Preventing, and Healing Sexual Abuse. (2003). Winona, MN: Saint Mary’s Press.

McGlone, Gerard J., and Sperry, L. The Inner Life of Priests. (2012). Collegeville, MN: Liturgical Press.

McGlone, GJ. The Clerical Sex Abuser: A Review of the Research. Dark Knight of the Catholic Church (2011). Eds. Geary, B. and Greer, J. Published by Kevin Mayhew.

Miller II, Richard, W. Editor. Spirituality for the 21st Century: Experiencing God in the Catholic Tradition. (2006). Missouri: Liguori.

Morneau, Robert. Reconciliation. (2007). Maryknoll, NY: Orbis.

Newberg, Andrew, M.D., & Waldman, Mark Robert. How God Changes Your Brain. (2010). New York, NY: Ballantine Books.

Nouwen, Henry. The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming. (1992). New York, NY: Image Books.

Plante, T. and McChesney, K. Sexual Abuse in the Catholic Church, A Decade of Crisis, 2002-2012. (2011). Santa Barbara, CA: Praeger Publications.

Roccasalvo, Joan, C.S.J. Adaptation. Prayer for Finding God in All Things: The Daily Examen of St. Ignatius of Loyola. (2005). St. Louis, MO. Inst. of Jesuit Sources.

Rolheiser, Ronald, OMI. One Great Act of Fidelity: Waiting for Christ in the Eucharist. (2011). New York, NY: Doubleday.

Rolheiser, Ronald, OMI. The Holy Longing: The Search for a Christian Spirituality. (1999). New York, NY: Doubleday.

Rolheiser, Ronald, OMI. The Restless Heart: Finding Our Spiritual Home in Times of Loneliness. (2004). New York, NY: Doubleday.

Rolheiser, Ronald, OMI. Prayer: Our Deepest Longing. (2013). Cincinnati, OH: Franciscan Media.

Rolheiser, Ronald, OMI. The Shattered Lantern: Rediscovering a Felt Presence of God. (2001). New York, NJ: Crossroads.

Rolheiser, Ronald, OMI. Against an Infinite Horizon: The Finger of God in Our Everyday Lives. (2001). New York, NY: Crossroads.

Rolheiser, Rolheiser, OMI. Forgotten Among the Lillies: Learning to Love Beyond our Fears. (2005). New York, NY: Doubleday.

Savary, Louis. The New Spiritual Exercises. (2010). St. Louis, MO: The Institute of Jesuit Sources.

Sherman, Jocelyn. The Priest as Pastoral Counselor: Strategies for Success. (2009). Lambert Academic Publishing.

Sperry, Len. Sex, Priestly Ministry, and the Catholic Church. (2003). Collegeville, MN: Liturgical Press.

Thibodeaux, Mark. God’s Voice Within. (2010). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

Townsen, Loren. Introduction to Pastoral Counseling. (2009). Nashville, TN: Abingdon Press.

Tyrrell, Bernard. Christotherapy II: The Fasting and Feasting Heart. (1982). New York, NY: Paulist Press.

Model Code of Pastoral Conduct. (2000-2004). The National Catholic Risk Retention Group, Inc.

Whitehead, Evelyn, & Whitehead, James. Christian Life Patterns. (2001). New York: Crossroads.

Whitehead, Evelyn, & Whitehead, James. Christian Adulthood. (2005). Liguori, MO: Liguori Press.

Whitehead, James. Nourishing the Spirit. (2012). New York, NY: Orbis Books, NY.

Wicks, Robert. Helping Others. (1982). New York: Gardner Press.

Wicks, Robert (Editor). Handbook of Spirituality for Ministers, Volume One. (1995). New York: Paulist Press.

Wicks, Robert (Editor). Handbook of Spirituality for Ministers, Volume Two. (2000). New York: Paulist Press.

Wicks, Robert (Editor). Clinical Handbook of Pastoral Counseling, Volume One. (1985). New York, NY: Paulist Press.

Wicks, Robert (Editor). Clinical Handbook of Pastoral Counseling, Volume Two. (1993). New York, NY: Paulist Press.

Wicks, Robert (Editor). Clinical Handbook of Pastoral Counseling, Volume Three. (2003). New York, NY: Paulist Press.

William, Barry, SJ. God and You. (1987). Mahwah, N.J: Paulist Press.

William Barry, SJ. Seek My Face (1989). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

William Barry, SJ. What Do I Want in Prayer? (1994). Mahwah, NJ: Paulist Press.

William Barry, SJ. With An Everlasting Love: Developing an Intimate Relationship with God. (1999). Mahwah, NJ: Paulist Press.

William Barry, SJ. A Friendship Like No Other: Experiencing God’s Amazing Embrace. (2008). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

William Barry, SJ. Here’s My Heart, Here’s My Hand: Living Fully in Friendship with God. (2009). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

William Barry, SJ. Changed Heart, Changed World: The Transforming Freedom of Friendship with God. (2011). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

William Barry, SJ. Praying the Truth: Deepening Your Friendship with God through Honest Prayer. (2012). Chicago, IL: Loyola Press.

William Barry, SJ. Discernment in Prayer: Paying Attention to God. (1990). Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press.

William Barry, SJ. Finding God in All Things: A Companion to the Spiritual Exercises. (1991). Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press.

Medical Books

Jacobs, Gregg, D., Ph.D., Say Good Night to Insomnia. (1998). New York: Henry Holt and Company, LLC.

MacFarlane, Muriel, R.N., M.A. Getting a Good Night’s Sleep. (2005). Encinitas, CA: United Research Publishers.


Psychology Books

American Psychiatric Association: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 5th Edition. (2013). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Association.

Amadeo, L., & Sofielf, L. A Spirituality of Stress Management. (2006). Human Development, 27 (3), 14-18.

Arlonski, Michael. Wellness Coaching for Lasting Lifestyle Change. (2009). Duluth, MN: Whole Persons Associates.

Barlow, David. Clinical Handbook of Psychological Disorders, 2nd Edition. (1993). New York, NY: The Guilford Press.

Bellach, Alan & Hersen, Michel. Psychopathology in Adulthood. (1993). Needham Heights, MA: Simon & Schuster.

Benner, David, & Peter Hill Baker (Editors). (1999). Baker Encyclopedia of Psychology and Counseling. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House.

Berry, Carmen Renee. When Helping You is Hurting Me. (1989). San Francisco, CA. Harper and Row.

Bradshaw, John. Bradshaw on: The Family. (1996). Dearfield Beach, FL: Health Communication, Inc.

Brenneis, Michael J. Personality Characteristics of Clergy and of Psychologically “Impaired” Clergy: A Review of the Literature. (2001). American Journal of Pastoral Counseling, Volume 4 (2).

Bridges, William. Managing Transitions. (2009). Philadelphia, PA: De Capo Press.

Dingfelder, Sadie F. Treatment for the Untreatable.(2004). Monitor on Psychology; March 2004, Volume 35, No. 3.

Cacioppo, John T. Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection. (2008). New York: W.W. Norton & Co.

Ciarrocchi, J., and Wicks, R. Psychotherapy with Priests, Protestant Clergy, and Catholic Religious: A Practical Guide. . (2000). Madison, CT: Psychological Press.

Donoghue, Paul, & Siegel, Mary. Are You Really Listening? (2005). Notre Dame, IN: Sorbin Books.

Evans, Patricia. The Verbally Abusive Relationship. (2010). Avon, MA: Adams Media.

Gill, J. Coping with Everyday Stress. (2003). Human Development, 24 (2), 27-34.

Harbin, Thomas J. Ph.D. Beyond Anger, a Guide for Men.(2000). Philadelphia, PA: Da Capo Press.

Hawkins, David. Dealing with the Crazy Makers in Your Life. (2007). Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers.

Hirschfield, Jerry, Ph.D. The Twelve Steps for Everyone. (1990). Center City, MN: Hazelden.

Horizon. Winter, 2010 Issue, Volume 35, Number 2.

Kennedy, Eugene, & Charles, Sara. On Becoming a Counselor. (2001). New York: Crossroads.

Knapp, Herschel. Therapeutic Communication. (2007). Los Angeles, CA: Sage Publications.

Lenzenweger, MF, et al. DSM-IV Personality Disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication. (2007). Biological Psychiatry Journal, September 15; 62 (6): 553-64.

Lester, Gregory. Personality Disorders in Social Work and Health Care. 3rd Edition. (2003). Cross Country Education.

Levant, Ronald F. Ed.D., ABPP. Men and Emotions. A Psychoeducational Approach. A Video Series. New York, NY: (1997). Newbridge Communications.

Littrell, John. Brief Counseling in Action. (1998) New York: Norton Professional Books.

Lukas, Susan. Where to Start and What to Ask. An Assessment Handbook. (1993). New York, NY: W.W. Norton & Company.

May, Gerald. Simply Sane. (1993). New York: Crossroads.

McGlone, Gerard J., SJ. Creating Safe and Sacred Places: Identifying, Preventing, and Healing Sexual Abuse. (2003). Winona, MN: Saint Mary’s Press.

McWilliams, Nancy. Psychoanalytic Diagnosis: Understanding Personality Structure in the Clinical Process. (1994). New York, NY: The Guilford Press.

Meier, Paul (Editor). Introduction to Psychology and Counseling: Christian Perspectives and Applications. (2000). Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House.

Meloy, J.R. Narcissistic Pathology and the Clergy. (1986). Pastoral Psychology, 35 (1), 50-55.

Millon, Theodore. Personality Disorders in Modern Life, 2nd Edition. (2004). Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.

Morrison, James, M.D. DSM-IV Made Easy. (2006), New York, NY: The Guilford Press.

Nay, W. Robert, Ph.D. Taking Charge of Anger. (2006). New York, NY: The Guilford Press.

O’Donohue, William. Difficult Personalities: It’s Not You; It’s Them. (2011). Lucky Bat Books.

Peck, M. Scott. The Road Less Traveled. (1978). New York: Simon and Schuster.

Perry, C. Wayne, D.Min., LMFT. Basic Counseling Technique. (2002). Lexington, KY: 1st Books Library.

Richards, P. Scott, & Bergin, Allen E. Casebook for a Spiritual Strategy in Counseling and Psychotherapy. (2004). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.

Richo, David. How to Be an Adult. (1991). New York: Paulist Press.

Richo, David. How to Be an Adult in Relationships. (2002). Boston, MA: Shambhala.

Riggio, Ronald E., edited by Porter, Lyman W. Introduction to Industrial/Organizational Psychology. (2013). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc.

Schiraldi, Glenn R., Ph.D. The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook. (2000). New York, NY: McGraw Hill.

Seminary Journal. Fall 2012, Volume 18, Number 2. Arlington, VA: NCEA.

Seminary Journal. Spring 2010, Volume 16, Number 1. Arlington, VA: NCEA.

Service Alternatives. De-escalate Anyone, Anywhere, Anytime. (2012).

Westberg, Granger. Good Grief. (1997). Minneapolis, MN: Augusburg Books.

Sigel, Ronald D., Psy.D. The Mindfulness Solution. (2010). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Vitz, Paul & Vitz, Daniel C. Messing with the Mass: The Problem of Priestly Narcissism Today. (November 2007). Homiletic and Pastoral Review.

Wicks, Robert J. The Resilient Clinician. (2008) New York, NY: Oxford University Press, Inc.

Wicks, Robert J. Riding the Dragon: 10 Lessons for Inner Strength in Challenging Times. (2005) South Bend, IN: Sorin.

Wood, Jeffrey C., Psy.D., & Wood, Minnie, NP. Therapy 101. (2008). Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Young, Jeffrey, & Klosko, Janet. Reinventing Your Life. (1994). New York: Penguin Putnam.


Addiction Books

Al-Anon Family Group. Courage to Change. (1992). Virginia Beach, VA.

Al-Anon Family Group. How Al-Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics. (1995). Virginia Beach, VA.

Al-Anon Family Group. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. (1981). Virginia Beach, VA.

Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book, Large Print 4th Edition. 

Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations For Men And Women Recovering From Sex Addiction. (1989). Hazelden.

Berger, Allen, Ph.D. 12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery: Avoiding Relapse through Self-Awareness and Right Action. (2008) Hazelden.

Brown, Brené, Ph.D., L.M.S.W. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.(2010). Hazelden.

Carnes, Patrick, Ph.D., Delmonico, David L., Ph.D., & Griffin, Elizabeth, M.A., with Moriarity, Joseph M. In the Shadows of the Net, Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior. (2001). Center City, MN: Hazelden.

Carnes, Patrick, Ph.D. A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery. (2012). Hazelden; Third Edition.

Carnes, Patrick, Ph.D., and Harkin, Marianne. Facing the Shadow.(2010). Gentle Path Press; Second edition.

Carnes, Patrick, Ph.D. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. (2001) Hazelden; Third Edition.

Carnes, Patrick, Ph.D. Don’t Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction. (1992). Bantam; Reprint edition.

Carr, Nicholas. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains.(2011). W. W. Norton & Company; Reprint edition.

Center for Psychiatric Rehabilitation, Sargent College of Health and Rehabilitation Sciences, Boston University. Edited by Diane Doyle Pita, LeRoy Spaniol. A Comprehensive Guide for Integrated Treatment of People with Co-Occurring Disorders. (2002). Boston, MA.

Collins, George, M.A., and Adleman, Andrew. Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame.(2011). New Harbinger Publications; Original edition.

Coombs, Robert Holman, & Howatt, William A. The Addiction Counselor’s Desk Reference. (2005). Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

Doan, Andrew, P., M.D., Ph.D., and Strickland, Brooke, FEP. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction. (2012). International.

Frykholm, A. Pastors and Pornography: Addictive Behavior. (September 4, 2007). Christian Century, pp. 20-22.

Greatful Members. The Twelve Steps for Everyone. (1990). Minneapolis, MN: CompCare Publishers.

Gorski, Terence T. Understanding the Twelve Steps, a Guide for Counselors, Therapists, and Recovering People. (1989). Independence, MO: Herald House/Independence Press.

Kurtz, Ernest, and Ketcham, Katherine. The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning. (1993). Bantam; Reprint edition.

Laaser, Mark, Ph.D. Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction. (2004) Zondervan; New edition.

Laaser, M and Earle, R. The Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free From Sexual Addiction. (2002) Kansas City: Beacon Hill Press.

Larsen, Earnie. Destination Joy: Moving Beyond Fear. Loss, and Trauma in Recovery. (2003). Hazelden.

Maltz, Wendy, LCSW, and Maltz, Larry, LCSW. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography. (2009). William Morrow Paperbacks; 1 Reprint edition.

May, Gerald G. Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addictions. (2007). HarperOne; Reissue edition.

Nakken, Craig. The Addictive Personality: Understanding the Addictive Process and Compulsive Behavior. (1996). Hazelden; 2nd edition.

O’Donohue, William T., and Sbraga, Tamara Penix. The Sex Addiction Workbook: Proven Strategies to Help You Regain Control of Your Life. (2004). New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition.

Roberts, Kevin. Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap. (2010). Hazelden.

Rohr, Richard. Breathing Under Water: Spirituality and the Twelve Steps. (2011). St Anthony Messenger Press.

Sex Addicts Anonymous. (2008). 2nd edition.

Shapiro, Rami. Recovery–the Sacred Art: The Twelve Steps As Spiritual Practice (Art of Spiritual Living).(2009). Skylight Paths Pub; 1 edition.

Skinner, Kevin, Ph.D. Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery. (2005) GrowthClimate.

S.L.A.A. Basic Text, Sex & Love. Addicts Anonymous.

Struthers, William M. Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain. (2009). IVP Books; 6th Printing edition.

Twerski, Abraham J., M.D. Addictive Thinking: Understanding Self-Deception. (1997). Hazelden; Second Edition.

Whitehead, James D., and Whitehead, Evelyn Eaton. Nourishing the Spirit: The Healing Emotions of Wonder, Joy, Compassion, and Hope. (2012) Orbis Book.

Young, Kimberly S., & Nabuco de Abreu, Cristiano. Internet Addiction, a Handbook and Guide to Evaluation and Treatment. (2011). Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.

Internet Addiction DVDs

Addiction DVD – An HBO Series (2012)

Internet gaming and Addiction (2011), Jack Kuo, MD

Pleasure Unwoven: An Explanation of the Brain Disease of Addiction (2010), Kevin McCauley

Untangling the Web Part 1: Understanding the Problem of Internet Sex and Pornography Addiction (2011), Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT

12-Step Groups

Below are select listings for 12-Step groups. Some meetings are open to anyone who wishes to attend, while others are closed to members only. It is best to check ahead by calling a local hotline number; this will help determine the best choice of meeting. The hotline numbers will usually confidentially take your name and number and call you back with meeting information or provide a recorded

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
A national 12 step program for sexual addicts and sexual offenders. This group is for people who feel powerless over lust. SA’s standard of sexual sobriety is total celibacy except with a marriage partner. According to the SA website, for the sexaholic, “any form of sex with one’s self or with partners other than the spouse is progressively addictive and destructive. We also see that lust is the driving force behind our sexual acting out, and true sobriety includes progressive victory over lust.”

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)
National 12 step program for sexual addicts and those with patterns of unhealthy romantic relationships. This group is for people who feel powerless over sex and love addiction. According to the SLAA website, this includes “love addiction, relationship, and sexual anorexia.” They tend to look at both the physical and emotional components of addiction.

Sexual Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
A national 12 step program for sexual addicts and some sexual offenders. Scattered meetings have female attendance. This group is for people who feel powerless over addictive sexual behavior, focusing more on acting out sexually. The SAA website states that a sex addict realizes “we were powerless over our sexual thoughts and behaviors and that our preoccupation with sex was causing progressively severe adverse consequences for us, our families, and our friends.” SAA was founded by therapist Patrick Carnes as a place to refer his patients after their stay at Golden Valley. Carnes drafted the original “green book” for SAA. The group tends to his philosophy that sex addiction is a behavioral disease as opposed to a moral failing. Their members define their own sexual boundaries with the guidance of their sponsors and other group members.

Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA)
(800) 977-4325
Mostly urban 12 step program, primarily for sexual addicts. This group is for people who feel powerless over having compulsive sex. According to the SCA website, “Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and to help others to achieve sexual sobriety.” Further it states, “We believe we are not meant to repress our God-given sexuality, but to learn how to express it in ways that will not make unreasonable demands on our time and energy, place us in legal jeopardy, or endanger our mental, physical or spiritual health.”

Sexual Recovery Anonymous(SRA)
(212) 340-4650
12 step program similar to SA except “committed relationship” is used instead of “marriage”. These meetings are limited in number but open to everyone in sexual recovery. This group is for people who feel powerless over sexual obsessions. For SRA “sobriety includes freedom from masturbation and from sex outside a mutually committed relationship.”

Other Internet Addiction Web Sites

Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH)
NCSAC is a resource providing information for professionals and recovering people regarding therapists, treatment centers, support groups and written materials.
SLAA Online Group
SLAA Online Group is part of a 12-Step, 12 Tradition recovery fellowship. We recover by sharing experience, strength, and hope using online chat. We conduct international online meetings to aid our mutual recovery patterned after Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, and are a registered group with them.
Sex Help
Sex Help is an online resource developed by Dr. Patrick Carnes offering books, exercises, and referrals from an acknowledged leader in the field of sexual recovery. The site primarily focuses on sexual addiction.
Your Brain On Porn
This site focuses on porn’s effects on the brain—male or female. This site grew out of a decade of research analysis on the effects of sex on the brain, and six years of listening to recovering porn addicts. There’s a vacuum of critically important information about porn’s effects on the brain.

Prevention Strategies

In helping oneself or others who are or may become involved in the compulsive use of the internet, pornography, or other addictive behaviors, there are two stages to be considered. Prevention strategies are considered to prevent usage from becoming compulsive, or to prevent relapse for those already in recovery. Intervention strategies are considered when usage and behaviors have become out of control and jeopardizing the health and wellbeing of the individual.
Prevention Strategies

  • When in doubt, talk to someone. Talking to a trusted friend or colleague can offer valuable insights into one’s behaviors. Addictive behaviors are fueled by secrecy.
  • Seek out a clinical professional for an objective assessment.
  • Keep and use the computer in a public space.
  • Have a general plan for the management of devices – use technology, don’t let it use you. Such a plan might include setting time limits on the use of devices, having periods of the day when one is ‘free’ from technology, or limiting, realistically, how many devises one needs.
  • Use of a parent control or monitoring software (see Parental Control Softwares below). Parental control software products are installed by sex and love addicts on computers, laptops, ipads, smartphones, and other mobile devices for two primary reasons: To help the addict stay away from inappropriate digital content and interactions, and to create accountability within the addict’s recovery.
  • Educate oneself about the dangers of internet and pornography addictions.
  • Stress management – maintain healthy, enjoyable, and relaxing activities that lower one’s overall stress level and improves psychological resiliency.
Intervention Strategies
  • Stop compulsive/addictive behaviors immediately and seek professional help
  • Reach out to others: Diocese or Community, therapist, spiritual director, support team, accountability person, sponsor (if applicable)
  • Go to 12-step meetings and obtain a sponsor
  • Begin psychotherapy with a qualified therapist with addiction expertise. Develop a relapse prevention plan including psychological, social, physical, and spiritual strategies.
  • As part of the relapse prevention plan, organize a Support Team of 3 to 5 members to meet with on a monthly basis to review recovery progress. The Support Team is intended to offer support by helping the recovering person stay on track with their wellness goals – going to 12-step meetings, seeing a therapist, managing stress, keeping up with self-care behaviors, etc.
  • Regular spiritual direction
  • Join a priest support group if available
  • Limit exposure and temptation to pornography. This could entail limiting use of a computer and disabling smartphone capabilities
  • Obtain and utilize an ‘accountability partner’. This is an individual one empowers and entrusts to ensure one is following a recovery plan. This individual will have access to all devices to check for usage and potential lapses. The accountability partner could be a member of the Support Team.
  • Utilize relapse prevention strategies
Parental Control Softwares

Parental control software products are installed on computers, laptops, ipads, smartphones, and other mobile devices.
Digital interaction is, for nearly all sex and love addicts in today’s world, the gateway to a plethora of regrettable behavior—sexual chat rooms, pornography, webcam sex, alternate reality sex games, prostitutes, sensual massage, sexting, affairs, casual and anonymous hookups, etc. Just a few years ago, the majority of this activity took place via computers and laptops. Nowadays these activities are equally likely to be carried out “on-the-go” using smartphones.

What to look for in a filtering and accountability software

1. Customizable Controls. The better products have various present filtering levels, as well as blacklisting or whitelisting of certain sites—meaning sites that would normally be allowed can be manually blocked (blacklisted) and sites that would normally be blocked can be manually allowed (whitelisting).
2. Specific Features. Various softwares offer different degrees of functionality. In addition to customizable filtering, sex and love addicts should also look for some combination of the following:

  • the ability to monitor social media sites
  • the ability to block obscene language
  • the ability to stop the user from uploading photos and videos
  • the ability to monitor online conversations (emails, IMs)
  • the ability to block virtual sex games and other potentially addictive activities (violent video games, gambling sites)
  • key-logging (the ability to monitor everything the user types onto a digital device)
  • the ability to take and record screenshots (“photos” of what the user is looking at online)

3. Accountability. The software should notify an “accountability partner” about the nature and extent of the user’s digital activity. The accountability feature should be flexible, meaning the partner can get reports at regular intervals or on demand, and alerts in real-time if the addict uses (or attempts to use) his or her digital device in a prohibited way.
4. Proxy Blocking. Tech savvy addicts sometimes try to use proxies (intermediary servers or browsers) to circumvent filtering software. The best softwares prevent such abuses. Ideally, the program will notify the addict’s accountability partner if the addict attempts to uninstall or circumvent the program.
5. Ease of Use. The software should be easy to install and to customize. Ideally, you should be able to globally configure the software, establishing settings on all of the addict’s devices simultaneously instead of dealing with each machine individually.
6. Availability for Your Device. Not all softwares work on every digital device. In fact, many are quite limited. It is important to make sure a product works on your device before you purchase it. It is also important to see how many devices the license covers. Ideally, you want to cover all of your digital equipment with only one license.

It is important to remember that even the best parental control software is not perfect. As such, these software programs should not be viewed as enforcers of recovery; instead, they should instead be looked at as tools that can help an addict maintain sobriety (through the filtering features) and rebuild trust (through the accountability features).

Top Products
IPPC Technologies
Internet Probation & Parole Control (IPPC) technologies are developed for the specific and sole purpose of managing high-risk computer users. IPPC’s technology-service solution, featuring Impulse Control, is the benchmark solution for real-time, remote computer and Internet management.
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Net Nanny
Net Nanny offers top-notch filtering and accountability for your entire system of digital devices, both Windows and Mac. Happily, Net Nanny’s availability and functionality on mobile devices has caught up with its overall quality on computers and laptops. As such, all of the major features recovering sex and love addicts need are now available for all of their devices.

Other Products
AVG Family Safety
AVG Family Safety offers useful filtering and accountability features for Windows based computers and Android mobile devices, along with iOS mobile devices. However, it is not available for MacOS computers. For PC users this may be a good option. For Apple users, it probably isn’t.

BSecure Family Safety
BSecure offers top-notch filtering and accountability for Windows based computers, Android devices, and iOS devices. It is not available for MacOS computers. One nice feature with BSecure is that a user can override the blocking of a website with a password, but the site visit will be logged and the accountability partner will know. This is good for adults doing research for work, etc., who may not have time to “get permission” to visit a perfectly acceptable (or necessary) website. Another nice feature is the safety lock option, which totally locks out the Internet if the user goes wild trying to access blocked sites.

For Windows and Android devices, CovenantEyes offers all of the basic functions that recovering sex and love addicts require. As of now, functionality on MacOS and iOS devices is limited to accountability, with no filtering. One nice feature is that if the software shows no Internet usage for several days—indicating the user might be circumventing the program by using another browser—the accountability partner gets an email. For PC and Android users this is a solid, though slightly expensive option. It is not a good option for Apple users.

McAfee Family Protection
For Windows and Android users, McAfee offers the full range filtering and accountability that recovering sex and love addicts seek. Unfortunately, McAfee no longer offers parental control software for MacOS and iOS devices, so Apple users are out of luck. If the software fits your devices, this is a good option. Otherwise, not so much.

Norton Online Family Premier
Norton Online Family Premier offers all of the filtering and accountability features that recovering sex and love addicts are looking for. Best of all, it functions on a wide range of digital devices, regardless of operating system. This product has improved in the last year, eliminating several minor flaws in the previous version, and it is now a recommended option. As of now it is slightly less expensive than Net Nanny.


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Thank you for visiting our website. In cooperation with the USCCB, Saint John Vianney Center has developed these guidelines as a resource for confessors. Our hope is that these guidelines will help you offer sound pastoral care during the sacrament of reconciliation. Healthcare doesn’t always offer appropriate alternatives for people struggling with behavioral health issues, and they often find a welcoming home in our churches. At times, the issues they bring need additional care along with the healing and reconciling love of God. We hope you find this helpful.